The modern interpretation of love

The word love means different feelings, they know everything. But to understand what is at stake, you should be able to distinguish these feelings. Let us leave out of our love for attention to parents to children for the motherland and to the pet, and try to understand the love between a man and a woman.
Agape, karitativnaya love, platonic love, eros, love, compassion, etc. – each of these concepts at different times was given a definite meaning, which, however, does not simplify the understanding of this feeling, but – on the contrary. But by the end of the twentieth century, a new understanding of love, suddenly showing that the feeling of old felt love, is not. Or rather, can be called that word, but “a stretch”.
It turned out that almost all the meanings invested in the word love, belong to a different feeling – to love, which is a manifestation of an instinctive attraction to the person of the opposite sex (and at different times – and his). Cleared and the mechanism of this passionate attraction: the instinct of reproduction under certain conditions, to temporarily violate the immunity that protects the integrity of the individual. It allows people to quickly get close to an unfamiliar person. And as a result of this “gap” in immunity, a foreign person is perceived as the closest, dearest and expensive, which can be sacrificed for the sake of many.
Following this understanding of love was followed by an unexpected conclusion that concepts such as love at first sight, unrequited love, sacrificial love, and so it means love – romantic call of the manifestation of gender (sex appeal), the ultimate goal of which is procreation. It is true that in itself call sex does not necessarily lead to love. Often the availability of a partner does not develop this feeling, no tenderness, no intimacy, no erotic fantasies (as opposed to sexual fantasies). And coupled with the habit of soulless sex, it leads to the implementation of accessibility goals call of animal sex – to have sex. And pretty quickly from a few hours to several days, and it’s thanks to the “speed” neutralizing immunity to strangers to each other person managed to become sexual partners. True, to avoid embarrassment, shame and disgust after mating is not always possible, because the sexual act brings no soul.
Strong and essential to all animal instinct of procreation with such an attitude towards sexuality is reduced to a primitive desire of sexual gratification. But sex is not associated with a sense of intimacy and tenderness quickly leads to satiety and to the need to change the partner, gender, number, etc. This explains the increasing popularity of bisexual relationships, sex, and when the number of partners is not so important. In addition, the rapid achievement of the goal call of sex does not develop a romance, intimacy, tenderness and erotic delight, fantasies, and other typical manifestations of love feelings.
Everyone knows that feeling of love may be unanswered, then the destruction of immune response is not leading to emotional openness leads to painful experiences, to psychological and even physiological disorders. This discomfort is called love suffering, although the reason for such a state of unrequited love only in the unilateral destruction of personal immunity.
Mutual love is so brings a couple of lovers, that they do not want to leave before the end of life, which seek to unite their destinies and dreams of the common children. In this case, call the floor playing a “soft” part, although from the perspective of the instinct of procreation, a single mating and harem family is still preferable because they provide more offspring of the “best” representatives of the floor. After all, is a natural physiological selection of strong, healthy and relatively beautiful partners.
Mutual love, as opposed to unilateral, may be called love, unless you consider that the proximity of loved ones is not quite true. After all, it is not caused by mutual understanding, respect, trust, emotional and physical merger, but only a temporary breach of an instinctive personal immunity. That is why very often beloved, ready to sacrifice everything for each other, after the restoration of immunity are strangers, how to flash falling in love. This was usually say, love has gone. In fact, love – physical and emotional approach – not yet. Indeed, such proximity – the state of Couples – comes with time and under the condition of mutual respect, trust and equality, it develops and grows stronger with age. It was a mutual feeling can be called true love – the highest stage of proximity to the pair.Such love is preserved until old age, as it is – the result of years of work (a pleasant, but difficult) beloved couples. Clearly, as closer for about a year until the immune system is neutralized, it is impossible, but you can manage to take the necessary steps to get closer to one day wake up not by strangers and not be forced to tolerate each other for the sake of children.
Many but not all, are dreaming of true love, “love to the grave”, but the absence of the tradition and the desire to learn it and spend (?) In his youth, and this is the time required for a career and selfish pleasures, does not allow them to feel such love and its companion simple human family happiness. Unrecognized gamologiya science can help in this much, but, unfortunately, this requires the external environment – the high level of economic and cultural development, a large percentage of middle class, etc. And while the happy couple on their number and to themselves are in the category “black sheep”.
Philosophers of different ages have tried to unravel the meaning of love and marriage, but somehow it is subjective, rather, at the level of social development of its time. To illustrate their vision may be quotations from the works of two famous philosophers, one of which was printed in the second half of the XVI century, the second – in the first half of the twentieth century. Readers familiar with their works, they realize I’m talking about, but other names still will not say anything.
1 – “… The love of a woman emerges from our free choice. Its flame more relentlessly than friendship, more burning and agonizing. But this – the flame reckless and volatile, unstable and changeable, it is – hectic fever, then fading, then come up with a bang and breeding only in one corner of our soul … Love – a frenzied desire to ensure that running away from us … As soon as this kind of loveturns into friendship, that is in agreement desires, it withers and dies. Enjoyment can be reduced to bodily possession, and therefore prone to satiation, kills her …
As for marriage, then – not to mention the fact that it is a bargain, which is voluntary only when it concludes (for the duration of her forcibly imposed on us and does not depend on our will), and, in addition, transaction which is performed usually does for other purposes – it is a thousand strangers circumstances in which it is difficult to understand, but which is quite enough to break the thread and disrupt the development of a sense of living … Add to this that, in truth, the level of ordinary women does not such as to enable them to maintain that spiritual closeness and togetherness, which feeds on this sublime union, and their soul, apparently, does not possess sufficient stability so as not to tire of shyness is so strong and lasting ties. And, of course, if it did not constitute obstacles could arise if such a voluntary association, which not only ate the soul would be a perfect pleasure, but also his body separated, the union, which was given to man to reign, it is certain that friendship it would have been complete and absolute. But never has the weaker sex did not show us an example of this, and, in the unanimous opinion of all the philosophical schools of antiquity, women here have to avoid …
Science, determining the behavior and customs of the people – as a philosophy and theology – to interfere in everything, is not among our cases and the lessons of this – no matter how it may be personal and intimate – which could take refuge from their beliefs and their pesky court … So I want on behalf of these sciences to instruct their husbands (if still there are those who are married and maintain a frenzy of passion), even those pleasures, that they partake of intimacy with their wives, should be condemned if they forget about the proper extent, and that in a legal marriage can fall into the same licentiousness and debauchery, as in an adulterous relation. These shameless weasels, which pushes us first heat of passion, not only filled with obscenity, but also carry ruin our wives. Better to let them teach shamelessness someone else. They already are always ready to meet us …
Marriage – a sacred and pious union, which is why pleasure that he brings to us, must be reserved, serious, even, to some extent, strict. This should be a conscientious and noble passion. And since the main purpose of such an alliance – procreation, some doubt whether the allowable proximity with his wife in those cases where we can not rely on natural fruits, such as when a woman is pregnant or when she is of age … ”
2 – “… Perfect love is not joined to the life kind of personality it is a victory over the impersonal element of race in this sense on the floor. Eros won the floor. In the strong emotion of love is the depth of infinity. But sex can not be integrated into a complete transformation of life, may remain an isolated area of the Fall. This isolation from his whole person and is terrified of sex. Therefore, it can so easily be done beginning of decay. We can not allow the autonomy of the floor. Has been said that love is out of the ordinary for many people, perhaps the only one.But this is the beginning of love. In its development, it is easy to fall under the authority of the ordinary. In love is infinite, but there are of course, limits this infinity. Love is a breakthrough in the objectified natural and social order. It has a penetration into the beauty of the face of another person in the Vision God, victory over the ugliness of triumph in a fallen world. But love does not have the ability to develop in this world. And if the love-eros is not connected with love, compassion, the results are its destructive and painful. In eros in itself is cruel, he should resign compassion, caritas. Eros can be connected to agape. Ruthless Love is disgusting. The relationship between erotic love and affection karitativnoy, between love of ascent, the attraction of beauty and height, and descending love, attraction of suffering and sorrow in this world of low-lying, there is a huge and difficult topic. Eros platonic itself is impersonal, it focuses on the beauty, the divinity, rather than on concrete being deceived … Eros creates illusions, and they are not easy to distinguish from reality. It is human nature dream of love. But Eros is a real core, deserving of eternity. Very painful oblivion. Forgetfulness is a betrayal, the tradition of eternity flow of time. Sometimes reminiscent of a forgotten dream, and then sorrow embraces the soul. Life erotic, less certain moments, the saddest aspect of life … Love is inherent in the deep inner tragedy, and no wonder love is associated with death. There is a tragic conflict of love and creativity … Love, in fact, does not know of fulfilled expectations. Is sometimes relatively happy family life, but it’s a happy mundane … But sometimes, though not often, an unusual love associated with the spiritual meaning of life. ”