Dangerous time points for family relations

6 weeks, 8 months, 4 or 7 years – the dangerous points in time for the family.
Do you think that the similarities between Rachel Velkhiev, Roland Kaiser and Romy Schneider? All they have not withstood the test of the seventh year of marriage. Or … But first things first.
Time growing up. Six weeks.
And so, after about six weeks, she suddenly sees for himself that he did not second Kevin Costner, that the magnitude of the brain is inversely proportional to the muscles, but it allegedly copied from the collection of poems, “Yevgeny Yevtushenko. Favorites. “ Disappointment. So is this phenomenon, when the noise of broken glasses and pink fairy prince suddenly turns into a wet hen.
“Love is above all value actually feeling aroused in him a love object, and not himself the object”, – the famous German psychologist Dzh.Korsen.
Sometimes it is enough detail, so, for example, an incorrect touch in bed, his admiration for some of the trendy singers or completely innocent joke about his manhood, the relationship given hole.
If love is at this stage, managed to turn into a real love for these things just do not pay attention.
Will continue the love story? It all depends on how big the difference between illusion and reality, and from that decides whether he or she is, that these relationships benefit when compared with what happened in the life of each of them before.
Scam or relationships. Eight months.
After less than a year, one partner notices that the other in a literal sense finally took it into his heart.
At this stage, a love scam ideally grows into a strong, serious relationship. And plan for joint romantic holiday. Each of the two puts an end to the old “love” that kept as a fallback. On the question of whether they are now always be together, both always say “yes.”
Nevertheless, at this time, many parted, because are not ready to share with your loved ones not only holidays, but everyday. Problems at work, bad mood, rainy weekend, unwashed hair, abdominal pain and boring family holidays … routine sucks. The danger that one of them, fearing it would “make his legs,” a very, very loud.
Sexual trap slams shut. Two and a half years.
“Boogie Woogie hormones” – that once described the feeling of love by the famous English writer Henry Miller. That’s two and a half years (That’s how human nature), hormones of happiness and joy, feniltilamina and oxytocin, is on the wane, and with it, and a pair of sexual attraction.
To hormonal explosion happened again, we must re … fall in love. A good chance to take a run at the corners, and a bad deal for relatively young relationship. But the first alienation does not mean that you should leave immediately. It is only necessary to learn, maintaining intimacy, keep your distance. After two years of each new symbiosis must have their own external stimuli and their own experience. Their friends and their work, weekend, held separately, would help to get close again. It’s even more interesting. Each brings with them from the outside something that can share with her half. Of course, with the exception of a bad disease.
“Menopause is love,” the fourth year.
After four years of marriage just falls into menopause. A lot of couples break up.According to the American anthropologist Helen Fisher, a biological heritage of the dawn of mankind.
Four years later, the child (usually the children the couple already have one) is not so in need of parental attention and may be placed in the care of grandparents and nannies.
For parents, there are no more reasons to stay together, each focuses on a new, converges with another partner and starts new children. And so every four years.And the law is so ingrained in human nature that applies even if the family has no children.
German psychologist J. Korea interprets it somewhat differently: “As soon as the light of a baby, my love becomes a mother, lover – the breadwinner of the family. In bed, calm prevails. This new distribution of roles – a stern test for love. But even without the younger generation, after four years of building its nest family is failing.For months, they decorated their home and now that bought the last bowl or curtains, are not what they say, has come up with. ”
“Bermuda Triangle” Year of the seventh.
Why many do not survive the seventh year of marriage? This was still argue, sociologists, psychologists and doctors. And as an intelligible explanation is found, it was referred to as “the mysterious seventh year.” In fairy tales and myths of the “seven” – the magic number. Doctors say that the body is renewed every seven years. ”Perhaps the human psyche needs every seven years at the beginning of the new – says Dzh.Korsen.
Often couples who want to break up at this time, can not explain why they are actually doing. After seven years of life, as a rule, well established, the future is clear, the houses are in order. But the narrow confines of stability become unbearable, especially for women who have long sat at home and do the housework and children, and now they want – for a change – to return to work they have discovered that in addition to diapers, shopping and aerobics on Wednesdays, there is and chance, perhaps the last, to make a career. The prospect of a woman’s career heats pride. The former housewife wants and at home to become an equal partner. And many men are not to your taste.
Last threat. After twelve years of age.
Infidelity, separation, life distress, lack of money and professional failures … It would seem that for the twelve years of marriage passed all or nearly all, and examination on the strength of sustained an “excellent”. Why does break up “the veterans of family life”?
“There is no reason not – says J. Corso. - But one of the two suddenly begins to think: “Is this really all? I imagined (and) their lives differently. “ Women envied her friends who are “more fortunate” with their husbands, the men would like to once again start all over again. ”
It’s now or never! Perhaps this is not the last crisis, midlife crisis, but it is something very dangerous and complicated …